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You chisel some words into stone for safety. I'll be your server, I am your father, I work in marketing. You fashion a handle for others, while you grapple for balance within.…

What's the perfect name for your brand, business, or book? There isn't one. Pick something and start creating. Your handle doesn't matter.

There is what's good for you, and there is what you want.

A therapist once reassured me with this declaration: "It won't kill you." I offered a pedantic correction: "It probably won't kill me."

They tell you to be fearless. It's bad advice.

Write to a specific person. Imagine their eyes, nose, ears, and all the rest as you write. Give your reader a face.

The math of meaning is surprisingly simple: The more you accumulate, the harder it becomes to tell a cohesive story. (Because Complication accelerates knowledge loss.) So tell…

You think of learning as accumulation, but that's only half the story. Learning also requires unlearning. Ideas you once nurtured must be uprooted and discarded. There is no…

A higher-up confidently declared in a team meeting that "mistakes are unacceptable." Poppycock. Mistakes are more than acceptable.

Microprinciples are potentially annoying to those seeking the capital-T Truth about making. Sometimes they Dad you headlong into a direction. Sometimes they are your Mom…

Wisdom isn't a collection, it's a chemical reaction. It's not adding books to a shelf; it's adding ingredients to a soup that's been simmering your whole life. But you most…

There are no straight lines in the universe.

When little makes sense, and the world feels hard, and you have a mild headache too, you must return to your essence. Sometimes the answer is water.

"The most common form of despair is not being who you are."

After a dinner party: one friend dissects the power dynamics, another maps the flow of ideas, a third can't forget the menu.

You are on the hunt for boredom. Yes, boredom. Every maker should crave boredom, yet you run from it. Boredom is the amuse bouche before inspiration.

Your man Tolstoy devoted twenty chapters to the question, What is Art? My glib response to Lev is "Art is craft on presentation." A cloud in the shape of a turtle isn't art,…

You exist in contradiction.

People are the most potent drug there is. People are how you exist in the mind of others and how the concept of "you" exists in your own.

Recall a moment when you felt hopeless or confused.

Every single person you know is family.

You're never the main character in other people's stories.

People keep telling me that a work of art "didn't age well." This seems to mean that the work endorses (or contains) ideas that are considered passé. Fine, but I find this form…

After futzing with a suboptimal situation (a job, relationship, a broken kettle), you may want to chuck the whole thing out. Start anew. Here's another path. Instead of reject…

When you slow down, so does time—because you notice more of it. When you don’t know what to do, move as slow as possible. You will learn much.

Should you find a window into the mental states of other people, consider that you barely have access to your own. Everyone must all plod through denial, self-talk, projection,…

There are enough modern Stoics to remind you that "the obstacle is the way." This isn't a cold plunge sales pitch, it's a dose of Scared Straight. Comfort is a curse and it…

Part of any creative process is sharing work and getting feedback. This nerve-wracking experience is intensified by the prospect of a sharp shard of critique from a peer, the…

Ever hear someone shout at another person in public? It changes the temperature of a space, infecting others with fear and wariness. Public kindness has even more power.…

If things feel hard, here's something to ponder: it gets worse before it gets better. This is neither good news nor bad news. It's the truth, and you deserve to know.

In the age of clipper ships and bodices and Jules Verne, stepping on the moon was pure fantasy. A century later, it was in the newspapers. How does the transition from magic to…

"What's your greatest weakness?" is an insipid question. "I'm a perfectionist" is an egregious answer. The occasional pang of perfectionism is OK; it's unforgivable to choose…

How certain are you that the Earth revolves around the sun?

A fork in the road is a seemingly simple question: "What do you want?" This is the paradox. You must choose, with confidence, between options you know nothing about. You've…

From all appearances, nothing's changed. Your routine, your hot mug, the satisfying clacks of your keyboard. Then you look closer: the story you're writing doesn't make sense.…

We have an epithet ("bossy") for those who assume control without embarrassment, but without these people, society would face certain doom. It only takes one group dinner to…

There's this story about an old man, Joseph, who is experiencing dizzy spells, but none of his anti-nausea medications are doing a thing. Eventually, a new doctor asks Joseph…

Complaints are a simple cocktail: squeeze one observation about reality, add a jigger of resistance, shake with attitude, serve on ice. Fun to sip and serve. Easy to overdo.

This microprinciple is inspired by Miss Eleanor Larsson.

Vanilla isn't “blank,” you get it from the fruit of a tropical orchid. The flesh tone known as “white” is pinky-peachy-orange. Political left and right wing aren't real places,…

When you like a piece of music, you play it on repeat. If you discover a great restaurant, you come back with friends. But folks will read a book once, even one they love, and…

This isn't a paean to the joy of missing out (JOMO). It's a eulogy. The defiant rebranding of one emotion (FOMO) into its contrary does nothing to quelch the sad truth: You…

The brighter the light, the more crisp its shadow. There's a dark side to everything, including growth. When you choose to change yourself (or the world) the glow of progress…

It's energizing to be the one talking. No human is exempt from the need to be heard. But in conversation, holding the conch has a catch: every second you are speaking, you are…

Someday, you (writer, designer, maker, creator) may find yourself on the business end of the shovel, covered in soot, under the cold umbra of a deadline. In these moments you…

One day, you may feel the craft you love hardening into drudge. There is only one cure. Invite play into your process.

Darkness is the opposite of light, but it is more than an absence. Darkness is a force in our universe. It causes distress and pain. It destroys all, eventually. Even so,…

Over time, every relationship amasses a set of conventions, vocabulary, and straight-up lore. Hotwords that inflame specific nostalgia. Inside jokes. Preposterous slang. This…

"The worst crime I can think of would be to rip people off by faking it and pretending as if I'm having 100% fun."–Kurt Cobain

There's reality and there's meta. Reality is visceral, concrete experience. Motion and action. Sensation and meaning. The universe.

In every meeting, someone has to take notes. Otherwise, it's just a conversation. Conversations are splendid, but a Meeting is a conversation with a purpose. There are three…

This is a fascinating writing approach from the great Derek Sivers.

The nightclub of love has three exits. There's Disconnection, the door you choose. There's the Dump, when a bouncer chooses for you. And there's Death, the trap door that…

Once while teaching at Cornell, physicist Richard Feynman was burned out.

It's all too simple.

Of the five reporter's questions there's one you can leave out. Whether you're doing customer research, interrogating a suspect, or helping a friend through a heartbreak, don't…

Like a vending machine sandwich, clichés are convenient when low on time or energy. But while the former threatens only your stomach, indulging in cliché gives the rest of the…

A human way of implementing N+1 redundancy.

This one goes out to the problem solvers.

Eat pumpkin pie for breakfast, every single day, that is a routine. End every phone call with "Aye Aye Cap'n", that qualifies too. A routine is doing what you want, as much as…

Straight wisdom from Critter's blog. Make your process recite-able by using a handful of simple words.

Just as ball has weight and spin, so do words. The point of communication is to influence. All words sow seeds of sway.

Death isn't "coming" for you. It's here. You are dying every day. You may have lived half your life, but you've already died half of it too.

Some folks describe their day job as "putting out fires." Consider avoiding these people at all costs. They harbor a deeply troubling point of view on the nature of work and it…

Writing often begins with research: a relaxed period marked by supine stints of reading. Research is generally followed by the misery known as writing: self-flagellation at a desk.

Beyond your basic responsibilities, there are probably one hundred-thousand unsolved problems at your place of work. Linger too long around the water cooler, and you might be…

Most thoughts are uncaused. Thoughts flit into awareness without effort and evaporate just as easily. (“Should I learn to unicycle?”) Others are a reaction to specific stimuli:…

The firehose is the endless influx of content selected by algorithms. If you want to maintain control over who you are and what you believe, you must turn off the firehose.

Here's a seven-word miracle cure: "You always feel better after a bike ride."

Technology promised to make things easier. An escalator to erase life's tedious steps and free you from the supposed burden of collaboration; enabling the one to do what used…

Your favorite novelist probably skipped a few meals and un-skipped a few cigarettes while wrestling her bestseller into submission. That neighbor with the perfect fence and the…

The thud factor is the fantasy of monumental, overnight change. In waking life, growth is incremental, imperceptible, and unpredictable.

A friend bragged: “I consider myself unbiased.” My retort was spiky: “So you don't take a stand on things or have meaningful opinions?”

Before hitting the trail with a major creative undertaking, consider packing a side project into your saddle. Decide how you want to procrastinate beforehand, and you'll feel…

Every year, millions of unseasoned youths are subjected to the precarious and costly rite-of-passage known as "learning to drive." Children! At the helm of lethal machinery.…

Many brainstorming sessions loiter at the intersection of feasible and probable. Nothing interesting is happening there.

To grapple with Big Problems, one must unveil their underlying causes. However, if your scrutiny suggests that the culprit is none other than "Other People," your search isn't…

When making a slide presentation, start with the script, then think visuals. Always start without slides. Here are two reasons why.

I lived for a short time in a co-op in Berkeley, California where everyone had assigned chores. The first time I was assigned meal duty, I was nervous. I had never cooked for a…

This principle comes from Jonathan Blow.

Whether it's a cup of hot coffee, a new habit, or a life-altering decision, consider the size of your first dose carefully. Sip before you swig.

There is enough. There's enough grass for the picnic, enough sunlight for everybody. Enough time for all of the charades. Enough people, enough friends, enough songs. You're safe.

Faster, cheaper, and "better" are lousy vectors as a business differentiator, or for a marketing offer—or just to be , as a human, in the world.

“Should I do this thing—or not?” is a limited perspective.

Would you drive across town to save $50 on a brand new car valued at $10,000? Probably not. How about the exact same distance to save $50 on groceries valued at $100? Probably.

Despite all efforts to divide things in two, the universe is not binary. As concepts, the extremes feel clear: day and night, black and white, good and evil. In reality, each…

A ten-dollar word is one that helps the speaker sound smart and makes the listener confused. You'll hear it in business jargon, academic terminology, or loanwords from ancient…

When struggling with a decision, act only when you have consensus from your mind, your heart, and your gut. You are seeking a whole body yes.

In undergrad, I came across Immanuel Kant's sole readable line:

All endeavor requires compromise. That's the pill, here's what's hard to swallow.

Discard your first ideas when making, problem solving, or decision making. Clichés, tropes, and stereotypes are your brain's first drafts. When ideas come easy it means they’re…

There is a clothing store in Oakland, California whose slogan is unforgettable: "Own fewer, better things."

Sure, they play that song on the radio because people like it. But people also like it because they play it on the radio. Repetition breeds affection.

Information has become a commodity. It’s so abundant the cost of processing it exceeds any reason to try. Everyone you know skims articles, snacks on social media, and jams…

James Clear once called incremental behavior change "the compound interest of self-improvement." Small improvements, applied consistently, add up to tremendous results.

In other words, the further you are from your adversary, the larger the weapon you need to win them over. Nations use bombs, knights used swords, lovers use words and glances.…

A system’s output depends on its input. In computer science, this is the principle of garbage in, garbage out, and it applies to humans too. “You are what you read.”

Don't be fooled by posters or PowerPoint presentations. Your company culture isn't a handful of buzzy phrases dreamed up by HR. Culture is what is rewarded and celebrated by…